Advice to Young Men from an Old Man

1. Don’t pick on the weak. It’s immoral. Don’t antagonize the strong without cause, its stupid.
2. Don’t hate women. It’s a waste of time
3. Invest in yourself. Material things come to those that have self actualized.
4. Get in a fistfight, even if you are going to lose.
5. As a former Marine, take it from me. Don’t join the military, unless you want to risk getting your balls blown off to secure other people’s economic or political interests.
6. If something has a direct benefit to an individual or a class of people, and a theoretical, abstract, or amorphous benefit to everybody else, realize that the proponent’s intentions are to benefit the former, not the latter, no matter what bullshit they try to feed you.
7. Don’t be a Republican. They are self-dealing crooks with no sense of honor or patriotism to their fellow citizens. If you must be a Republican, don’t be a “conservative.” They are whining, bitching, complaining, simple-minded self-righteous idiots who think they’re perpetual victims. Listen to talk radio for a while, you’ll see what I mean.
8. Don’t take proffered advice without a critical analysis. 90% of all advice is intended to benefit the proponent, not the recipient. Actually, the number is probably closer to 97%, but I don’t want to come off as cynical.
9. You’ll spend your entire life listening to people tell you how much you owe them. You don’t owe the vast majority of people shit.
10. Don’t undermine your fellow young men. Mentor the young men that come after you. Society recognizes that you have the potential to be the most power force in society. It scares them. Society does not find young men sympathetic. They are afraid of you, both individually and collectively. Law enforcement’s primary purpose is to suppress you.
11. As a young man, you’re on your own. Society divides and conquers. Unlike women who have advocates looking out for them (NOW, Women’s Study Departments, government, non-profit organizations, political advocacy groups) almost no one is looking out for you.
12. Young men provide the genius and muscle by which our society thrives. Look at the Silicone Valley. By in large, it was not old men or women that created the revolution we live. Realize that society steals your contributions, secures it with our intellectual property laws, and then takes credit and the rewards where none is due.
13. Know that few people have your best interests at heart. Your mother does. Your father probably does (if he stuck around). Your siblings are on your side. Everybody else worries about themselves.
14. Don’t be afraid to tell people to “Fuck off” when need be. It is an important skill to acquire. As they say, speak your piece, even if your voice shakes.
15. Acquire empathy, good interpersonal skills, and confidence. Learn to read body language and non-verbal communication. Don’t just concentrate on your vocational or technical skills, or you’ll find your wife fucking somebody else.
16. Keep fit.
17. Don’t speak ill of your wife/girlfriend. Back her up against the world, even if she’s wrong. She should know that you have her back. When she needs your help, give it. She should know that you’ll take her part.
18. Don’t cheat on your wife/girlfriend. If you must cheat, don’t humiliate her. Don’t risk having your transgressions come back to her or her friends. Don’t do it where you live. Don’t do it with people in your social circle. Don’t shit in your own back yard.
19. If your girlfriend doesn’t make you feel good about yourself and bring joy to your life, fire her. That’s what girlfriends are for.
20. Don’t bother with “emotional affairs.” They are just a vehicle for women to flirt and have someone make them feel good about themselves. That’s the part of a relationship they want. For you it is a lot of work and investment in time. If they are having an emotional affair with you, they’re probably fucking someone else.
21. Becoming a woman’s friend and confidant is not going to get you into an intimate relationship. If you haven’t gotten the girl within a reasonably short period of time, chances are you won’t ever get her. She’ll end up confiding to you about the sexual adventures she’s having with someone else.
22. Have and nurture friendships with women.
23. Realize that love is a numbers game. Guys fall in love easily. You’re going to see some girl and feel like you’ll die if you don’t get her. If she rejects you, move on to the next one. It’s her loss.
24. Don’t be an internet troll. Got out and live life. There is not a cadre of beautiful women advertising on Craigslist to have NSA sex with you. Beautiful women don’t need to advertise. The websites that advertise with attractive women’s photos and claims of loneliness are baloney. All they want is your money and your personal information so that they can market to you. The posts on Craigslist by young “women” seeking NSA sex, and asking for a picture are just a bunch of gay troll pic collectors. This is especially true if the post uses common gay lexicon like “hole” as in “fuck my hole” or seeks “masculine” men, or uses the word cock (except in the context of “Don’t send a cock shot.”) There are women on Craigslist. They are easily recognizable by their 2-5 paragraph postings. Most are in their 30's or older.
25. When you become a man in full, know that people will get in your way. People who are attracted to you will somehow manage to step in your path. Gay guys will give you “the look.” Old people will somehow stumble in front of you at the worst time. Don’t get frustrated. Just step aside and go about your business. Know that these are passive aggressive methods to get you to acknowledge their existence.
26. Don’t gay bash. Don’t mentally or physically abuse people because of who they are, or how they present themselves. It’s none of your business to try to intimidate people into conformity.
27. If your gay, admit it to yourself, your parents, your friends and society at large. Be prepared to get harassed. See rule 14. If someone threatens you or assaults you, call the cops. Have them arrested. You have no obligation to self sacrifice because of who you are. As a gay person, you’ll have more social freedom than straight men. Use it to protect yourself. Be prepared to get out of Dodge if your orientation makes your life unbearable. Move to San Francisco, New York, Atlanta, or New Orleans. You’ll find a welcoming community there.
28. Don’t be a poser. Avoid being one of those dudes who puts a surfboard on top of their car, but never surfs, or a dude with a powder coated fixed gear bike and a messenger bag, but was never a messenger. Live the life. Earn your bona fides.
29. Don’t believe the crap about the patriarchy. More women are accepted and attend college. More degrees are awarded to women than men. Women outlive men. More men commit suicide. Men are twice as likely to be victims of violence, including murder. If you consider sexual assaults in prisons, twice as many men are raped as women (society thinks prison rape is funny). The streets are littered with homeless men, sprinkled with a few homeless women. Statically, women are happier than men. The myth that girls are being cheated by are educational system is belied by the fact that schools are bastions of femininity, mostly run by and taught by women. Girls outperform boys in school. It is the boys in school getting fucked over, and prescribed ritalin for being boys. Real wages for men are falling, while real wages for women are rising. Just because someone says something enough times, doesn’t make it true. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
30. Remember, 97% of all advice is worthless. Take what you can use, and trash the rest.

kalenjin Succes Prayer

In The name ofGod, The Beneficent, The Merciful.

I seek refuge from the accursed Satan, please accept my prayer...

I seek Thy refuge from anxiety and grief,
I seek Thy refuge from lack of strength and laziness,
I seek Thy refuge from cowardice and niggardliness,
I seek Thy refuge from being overpowered by debt and from the oppression of men.

Suffice Thou me, with what is lawful.
Turn away from me the things that Thou prohibit.
And with Thy Grace,
Please keep me free from want of what is besides Thee.
KONGOI CHEPO NGOK, CHEBO NAMU,CHEBO TISAB, CHEBO NAMUN

Kalenjin National prayer

Among the Kalenjins, may the son be born with spiritual luster;
in this country, may the king be born a warrior,
a capable archer and chariot-fighter;
may the cow be born a milk cow;
the ox a good draught ox;
the horse a fleet one;
the damsel the object of the city's admiration;
the fighter victorious;
and the youth fit for the assembly;
kalenjin hero be born to the performer of the sacrifice;
whenever we wish may the cloud rain;
may our vegetation ripen with fruits;
may there be for us acquisition and conserving [of prosperity].

Truth on how a man can survive tides of times

In ordinary life, truth is what really exists, what a person really knows. Whereas in set it consists of something that is not actually in existence but which could happen. For example, when you go in and you ASSUME ATTRACTION, you going holding the belief that she is already attracted to you,
when this may or not be the case. What’s significant here is the reality of the inner life of the pick up artist, and his belief in that reality. We're not concerned with the actual naturalistic existence of what surrounds us when we're out doing pickup, or the actual reality of the material world! That is of use to us only insofar as it supplies a general background for our feelings. When you have a strong belief in your internal reality, this is what we're talking about when we say you need to maintain a "strong frame.” In other words, you need to have an unshakable belief that your perspective is the "correct" one, the one that corresponds with "objective reality," even if outside circumstances seem to indicate otherwise. What you have to do is put life into all the *imagined*
circumstances and actions that you must go into set with (i.e. assumed attraction and rapport, "alpha" status in set)until you have completely satisfied your sense of truth, and until you have awakened a sense of FAITH in the reality of your sensations. Truth in set is whatever we can believe in with sincerity,
whether in ourselves or in our wingmen. Truth can't be separated from belief, or vice versa. Everything that happens in set must be convincing to the pickup artist himself, to his associates and to the targets. It must inspire belief in the possibility, in real life, of emotions analogous to those being experienced by the pickup
artist. Each and every moment must be saturated with a belief in the truthfulness of the emotion felt, and in the action carried out, by the pickup artist. There are guys that are so strict with themselves in adhering to the "objective truth" that they often carry that attitude, without being conscious of it, to extremes that amount to
falseness. You shouldn't exaggerate your preference for truth and your abhorrence of "lies," because it tends to make you overplay truth for its own sake, and that, in itself, is the worst of lies. Try to be cool and impartial. Remember that reality in and of itself is by its very nature a subjective experience. You can even get some use from "falseness" if you're reasonable in your approach to it. It sets the pitch for you and shows you
what you should NOT do. Under such conditions, you can use a slight error to determine the line you shouldn't cross. The most important thing to remember is that you should never lose your SELF in the set. Always act in your own person, as an artist. You can never get away from yourself. The moment you lose
yourself in the set marks the departure from truly living and the beginning of exaggerated, false "acting."
This is what we call "incongruity." And women can sense it VERY well. Always and forever, when you're interacting with women, you MUST be yourself. The thing is, it's in an infinite variety of combinations of objectives, and given circumstances which present themselves in the field, and which have been smelted in the furnace of your emotion memory. You can't repeat an accidental sensation you may have in set,
any more than you can revive a dead flower. It's far better to try to create something new than to waste your efforts on dead things. How to go about it? First of all, don't worry about the flower, just water the roots, or plant new seeds. Many guys work in the opposite direction. If they achieve some accidental success in an interaction, they want to repeat it, and they try to get at those feelings directly, to conjure them up by mechanically repeating the words as a "routine.” The thing is, that's like trying to raise flowers without the cooperation of nature, and you can't do that unless you're willing to be satisfied with artificial blossoms. Don't think about the desired outcome of the routine itself, but set your mind to work on what makes it grow, what the conditions were that brought about the experience. Never begin with results. They will appear in time as the logical outcome of what has gone before. On the surface, these may seem like some fairly esoteric concepts. But to guys who are in the field consistently, they will understand immediately what I'm getting at here. Nothing beats field experience. No amount of intellectualizing or reading of newsletters, even one as badass as this one, can
replace good old-fashioned fieldwork. That's what makes our live, in-field programs such an incredible
value. Take our Super conferences, for example. These programs, held monthly in a different major metropolitan area, bring together some of the best guys in the game for a seminar/workshop combe that will rock your world. Over the course of the program, you'll be bombarded with MOUNTAINS of cutting-edge information to rocket your game to the next level. Armed with this information, you'll be able to:

1. Approach any group of people without fear or hesitation.

2. Immediately capture their undivided attention.

3. Separate yourself from the competition.

4. Build attraction within minutes (if not seconds).

5. Consistently establish comfort and trust.

6. Deflect any opposition with conversational ninjitsu.

7. Demonstrate that your standards are extremely high.

8. Seal the deal consistently!

Truth on how a man can survive tides of times

In ordinary life, truth is what really exists, what a person really knows. Whereas in set it consists of something that is not actually in existence but which could happen. For example, when you go in and you ASSUME ATTRACTION, you going holding the belief that she is already attracted to you,
when this may or not be the case. What’s significant here is the reality of the inner life of the pick up artist, and his belief in that reality. We're not concerned with the actual naturalistic existence of what surrounds us when we're out doing pickup, or the actual reality of the material world! That is of use to us only insofar as it supplies a general background for our feelings. When you have a strong belief in your internal reality, this is what we're talking about when we say you need to maintain a "strong frame.” In other words, you need to have an unshakable belief that your perspective is the "correct" one, the one that corresponds with "objective reality," even if outside circumstances seem to indicate otherwise. What you have to do is put life into all the *imagined*
circumstances and actions that you must go into set with (i.e. assumed attraction and rapport, "alpha" status in set)until you have completely satisfied your sense of truth, and until you have awakened a sense of FAITH in the reality of your sensations. Truth in set is whatever we can believe in with sincerity,
whether in ourselves or in our wingmen. Truth can't be separated from belief, or vice versa. Everything that happens in set must be convincing to the pickup artist himself, to his associates and to the targets. It must inspire belief in the possibility, in real life, of emotions analogous to those being experienced by the pickup
artist. Each and every moment must be saturated with a belief in the truthfulness of the emotion felt, and in the action carried out, by the pickup artist. There are guys that are so strict with themselves in adhering to the "objective truth" that they often carry that attitude, without being conscious of it, to extremes that amount to
falseness. You shouldn't exaggerate your preference for truth and your abhorrence of "lies," because it tends to make you overplay truth for its own sake, and that, in itself, is the worst of lies. Try to be cool and impartial. Remember that reality in and of itself is by its very nature a subjective experience. You can even get some use from "falseness" if you're reasonable in your approach to it. It sets the pitch for you and shows you
what you should NOT do. Under such conditions, you can use a slight error to determine the line you shouldn't cross. The most important thing to remember is that you should never lose your SELF in the set. Always act in your own person, as an artist. You can never get away from yourself. The moment you lose
yourself in the set marks the departure from truly living and the beginning of exaggerated, false "acting."
This is what we call "incongruity." And women can sense it VERY well. Always and forever, when you're interacting with women, you MUST be yourself. The thing is, it's in an infinite variety of combinations of objectives, and given circumstances which present themselves in the field, and which have been smelted in the furnace of your emotion memory. You can't repeat an accidental sensation you may have in set,
any more than you can revive a dead flower. It's far better to try to create something new than to waste your efforts on dead things. How to go about it? First of all, don't worry about the flower, just water the roots, or plant new seeds. Many guys work in the opposite direction. If they achieve some accidental success in an interaction, they want to repeat it, and they try to get at those feelings directly, to conjure them up by mechanically repeating the words as a "routine.” The thing is, that's like trying to raise flowers without the cooperation of nature, and you can't do that unless you're willing to be satisfied with artificial blossoms. Don't think about the desired outcome of the routine itself, but set your mind to work on what makes it grow, what the conditions were that brought about the experience. Never begin with results. They will appear in time as the logical outcome of what has gone before. On the surface, these may seem like some fairly esoteric concepts. But to guys who are in the field consistently, they will understand immediately what I'm getting at here. Nothing beats field experience. No amount of intellectualizing or reading of newsletters, even one as badass as this one, can
replace good old-fashioned fieldwork. That's what makes our live, in-field programs such an incredible
value. Take our Super conferences, for example. These programs, held monthly in a different major metropolitan area, bring together some of the best guys in the game for a seminar/workshop combe that will rock your world. Over the course of the program, you'll be bombarded with MOUNTAINS of cutting-edge information to rocket your game to the next level. Armed with this information, you'll be able to:

1. Approach any group of people without fear or hesitation.

2. Immediately capture their undivided attention.

3. Separate yourself from the competition.

4. Build attraction within minutes (if not seconds).

5. Consistently establish comfort and trust.

6. Deflect any opposition with conversational ninjitsu.

7. Demonstrate that your standards are extremely high.

8. Seal the deal consistently!

village advice from my grandfather

Knowledge is that which, next to virtue, truly raises one person above another.

Be curious always! For knowledge will not acquire you: you must acquire it.

Knowledge and human power are synonymous.

I think knowing what you cannot do is more important than knowing what you can.

It is not good to know more unless we do more with what we already know.

And you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free. [John 8:32]

Knowledge is like money: the more he gets, the more he craves.

To me the charm of an encyclopedia is that it knows and I needn't.

Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. One helps you make a living; the other helps you make a life.

It is not the quantity but the quality of knowledge which determines the mind's dignity.

Knowledge of the world in only to be acquired in the world, and not in a closet.

We own almost all our knowledge not to those who have agreed but to those who have differed.

Each department of knowledge passes through three stages. The theoretic stage; the theological stage and the metaphysical or abstract stage.

The essence of knowledge is, having it, to apply it; not having it, to confess your ignorance.

Knowledge, a rude unprofitable mass, the mere materials with which wisdom builds, till smoothed and squared and fitted to its place, does but encumber whom it seems to enrich. Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much; wisdom is humble that he knows no more.

You have to believe in God before you can say there are things that man was not meant to know. I don't think there's anything man wasn't meant to know. There are just some stupid things that people shouldn't do.

Today knowledge has power. It controls access to opportunity and advancement.

I would have the studies elective. Scholarship is to be created not by compulsion, but by awakening a pure interest in knowledge. The wise instructor accomplishes this by opening to his pupils precisely the attractions the study has for himself. The marking is a system for schools, not for the college; for boys, not for men; and it is an ungracious work to put on a professor.

Know, first, who you are, and then adorn yourself accordingly.

Knowledge, without common sense, says Lee, is folly; without method, it is waste; without kindness, it is fanaticism; without religion, it is death. But with common sense, it is wisdom with method, it is power; with clarity, it is beneficence; with religion, it is virtue, and life, and peace.

God grant that not only the love of liberty but a thorough knowledge of the rights of man may pervade all the nations of the earth, so that a philosopher may set his foot anywhere on its surface and say: This is my country!

No man can reveal to you nothing but that which already lies half-asleep in the dawning of your knowledge.

Know thyself. A maxim as pernicious as it is ugly. Whoever studies himself arrest his own development. A caterpillar who seeks to know himself would never become a butterfly.

The man who is too old to learn was probably always too old to learn.

Knowledge above the average can be crammed into the average man, but it remains dead, and in the last analysis sterile knowledge. The result is a man who may be a living dictionary but nevertheless falls down miserably in all special situations and decisive moments in life.

Knowledge without education is but armed injustice.

You can always draw as well as you know how to. I flatter myself that I feel more than I express on canvas; but I know that is not so.

Knowledge about life is one thing; effective occupation of a place in life, with its dynamic currents passing through your being, is another.

Knowledge is of two kinds: We know a subject ourselves, or we know where we can find information about it.

Knowledge rests not upon truth alone, but upon error also.

It's a dangerous thing to think we know everything.

Charles V. said that a man who knew four languages was worth four men; and Alexander the Great so valued learning, that he used to say he was more indebted to Aristotle for giving him knowledge that, than his father Philip for giving him life.

The hunger and thirst for knowledge, the keen delight in the chase, the good humored willingness to admit that the scent was false, the eager desire to get on with the work, the cheerful resolution to go back and begin again, the broad good sense, the unaffected modesty, the imperturbable temper, the gratitude for any little help that was given -- all these will remain in my memory though I cannot paint them for others.

It is disgraceful to live as a stranger in one's country, and be an alien in any matter that affects our welfare.

He who knows only his own side of the case, knows little of that.

The knowledge of God is far from the love of Him.

A knowledge of men is the prime secret of business success.

There are things known, and there are things unknown. And in between are the doors.

When a person acts without knowledge of what he thinks, feels, needs or wants, he does not yet have the option of choosing to act differently.

Those who think they know it all are very annoying to those of us who do.

Children with Hyacinth's temperament don't know better as they grow older; they merely know more.

And all your future lies beneath your hat.

Far better is it to know everything of a little than a little of everything

He who does not know one thing knows another

It is nothing for one to know something unless another knows you know it.

Try to put well in practice what you already know. In so doing, you will, in good time, discover the hidden things you now inquire about.

It not knowing what to do, it's doing what you know.

We are drowning in information and starving for knowledge.

There is much pleasure to be gained from useless knowledge.

One-tenth of the folks run the world. One-tenth watch them run it, and the other eighty percent don't know what the hell's going on.

No matter what happens, there's always somebody who knew it would.

The less you know, the more you think you know, because you don't know you don't know.

I wish I knew what I know now before.

It is better of course to know useless things than to know nothing.

Knowledge without practice is like a glass eye, all for show, and nothing for use.

Knowledge is gained by learning; trust by doubt; skill by practice; love by love.

They are so knowing, that they know nothing.

To know that we know what we know, and that we do not know what we do not know, that is true knowledge.

The trouble with the world is not that people know too little, but that they know so many things that ain't so.

Knowledge becomes wisdom only after it has been put to practical use.

Knowledge fills a large brain; it merely inflates a small one.


Nothing is too small to know, and nothing too big to attempt.

The things we know best are the things we haven't been taught.

We live on an island surrounded by a sea of ignorance. As our island of knowledge grows, so does the shore of our ignorance.

In the advance of civilization, it is new knowledge which paves the way, and the pavement is eternal.

If you want to know the taste of a pear, you must change the pear by eating it yourself. If you want to know the theory and methods of revolution, you must take part in revolution. All genuine knowledge originates in direct experience.

Great advice from my Grandfather

Never appeal to a man's better nature - he might not have one. Invoking his self interest gives you more leverage.

Natural laws have no pity.

Always listen to experts. They'll tell you what can't be done and why. Then go do it.

Your enemy is never a villain in his own eyes.

Animals can be driven crazy by placing too many in too small a pen. Homo Sapiens is the only animal that voluntarily does this to himself.

Delusions are often functional. A mother's opinions about her children's beauty, goodness, et cetera ad nauseam, keeps her from drowning them at birth.

A poet who reads his verse in public may have other nasty habits.

Formal courtesy between husband and wife is even more important than it is between strangers.

An elephant: A mouse built to government specifications.

Place your clothes and weapons where you can find them in the dark.

A committee is a life form with six or more legs and no brain.

"I came, I saw, SHE conquered."

In handling a stinging insect, move slowly.

A skunk is better company than a person who prides himself on being "frank."

Anything free is worth what you pay for it.

Never underestimate the power of human stupidity.

Rub her feet.

Everybody lies about sex.

Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors - and miss.

When the need arises - and it does - you must be able to shoot your own dog.

Don't try to have the last word. You might get it.

Avoid making irrevocable decisions while tired or hungry.

Do not handicap your children by making their lives too easy.